Rude tongue but a Caring heart!
Well, I think this writing will involve some of my random thoughts. You might think that these days I am writing quite often , that’s because my mind is always filled with thoughts of many kind and it keeps swirling in my mind, so in order to stop it, i need to dump it somewhere. So, yes, you got it right. You are reading those things which are dumped from my mind such that I stay cool and calm instead of being bothered about the thoughts.
So, rude tongue but a caring heart? Interesting, isn't it?
I am assuming that most of the children find it very hard to digest when their dad speak in a very harsh manner or verbally abuse them for whatever reasons it may be. Sometimes it could be reasons that are serious for the father but silly for the child and even vice versa. I have heard children ask, “ Why cant he speak with good manners”..or i still remember a daughter telling me, “ oh, he is mad. I will convince him”….blah blah…It has made me think too….like why cant the father or parent convey the same content in a polite manner. And in fact, my personal belief is if communication is done politely, things get resolved in a much smoother way than the usually preferred manner by most of the parents and i mean the rude tongue.
Hey, but wait. Above, I gave my angle of interpretation, isn’t it? Don’t you think they should be given an opportunity to express their feeling or observation just like how I did above. So, here it is. Parents have been nurturing the children since their birth. So undoubtedly their decisions, x or y, would always be in the best interest of the child. The only supporting force that every child can expect till their death is parents. For them, me or you , are not a child, but an emotion. And sometimes, this emotion is possessiveness or caring or angry or sad and what not. What children fail to understand is children are giving too much value on the rude tongue — the disheartening harsh words — which is just the surface of the lake but deep down the layers, it is a caring heart which only hopes for your best in life.
The reality and I would label it as unfortunate that today children and parents dont interact with each other and even if they do, it would be about the social media which has grabbed a major share of attention in everyone’s life. There were days when parents succeeded to guide their children socially through friendly conversations. I dont think thats the case today. No mood for a blame game. Please ask yourself.
I wanted to mention about a Malayalam movie, “Ozhimuri” which means “A document of separation”. The story was about a divorce filed by a 55 year old wife against her 71 year old husband after 30 years of married life. This movie is a real classic. The reason why I am mentioning this here is because the angle of perception is beautifully conveyed here. Am not going to discuss the whole plot in detail but only that one angle that suits this write-up. So the husband and wife had a son and the son always found his father to be very rude and harsh right from his childhood days. The son obviously chose to support the mother for divorce. There is one specific reason too. The son still has it fresh in his memory that the father used to tie him up to the window regularly with a strong rope and beat him up with a cane continuously in his childhood as an unforgettable scar in his mind. This scar resulted to deep hatred and of course a soft corner towards his mother just like most of the sons.
But the reality was something else, what could it be? What was the reason that his dad would always tie him up regularly with a rope and beat him up with a cane continuously?As far as I remember the cause, his one hand had become numb permanently and when he was taken to the doctor, the doctor ruled out the possibility of getting it cured except for a solution that if the child is tied up tight with a rope and if hit with a cane at his legs, the body will automatically show the reflex to lift its hand conveying it as the only practical cure. The father did exactly that until he got the result, which means if today the son has a functional hand, its because of his father.
Similarly, every parent has an untold story of pain that they took to nurture their children and may be at the surface, they appear rude or harsh but deep within they are concerned with love and understanding.
